Key Verse: Ephesians 4:29 (ESV), “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
I was stunned! My emotions were welling within me and I wasn’t sure how I was to handle this. I didn’t expect to hear those words from my best friend. They really hurt.
Do you recall the days when you just couldn’t get past the hurtful words said to you that brought tremendous sore emotions? Words that weren’t meant to hurt you, but they did; excruciatingly. We have all heard the saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”; yeah, well, the thing is, words hurt and sometimes to the point of never speaking to the one who said them again. Though what we say and do may not be intended to hurt anyone, we still need to be conscious of what is spoken or acted.
I am not talking about the “your shirt is outdated” kind of words that a friend says to another friend, though that can hurt too, but I am talking about words that are said from a deep heart reaction; sometimes from a place of guilt, fault, blame, shame or misplaced responsibility. I was young and had this friend. We were like completely inseparable in high school. We talked about everything and shared secrets and loved each other like sisters, the kind that fight often and get over it and are friends again. In our undeveloped maturity there was a day when words were shared. Not so nice words. Words that came from dark places that we didn’t even know existed. Because we were infantile and immature, we did not know how to process these words in a wholesome way. We walked away. Away from each other, the friendship, the sisterhood, all the time spent together. We walked away and we didn’t fix it. I regret my words and I am sure she does too.
Consider others first before speaking. It isn’t hard to do. It’s also not always pleasant, but the pain you prevent from entering this already wicked world makes it more enjoyable to just not say anything. Biting your tongue instead of a disagreeable remark, no matter how much you think someone needs to hear your words, will save someone’s life this year. You don’t mean them to tear someone down, but they do. They so, really do.
Lord, I want to be intentional with my words. I want them all to be beautiful and caring and meant to build a life and not tear one down. I ask for Your help in choosing my words with care and just keeping it shut when the words that want to come just don’t really matter or will destroy a friendship. Thank You for always speaking words of kindness and understanding and compassion to me. In Jesus’ Name, amen.