“Don’t compare your love story to those you watch in movies. They’re written by scriptwriters, yours is written by God.” I have seen similar quotes like this before, but today for some reason I stopped and had aha moment (you know, when the light bulb just turns on and you say “ohhhhh!”). I realize that not all of us have the kind of marriage that we think of from the Bible; Abraham and Sarah, Aquila and Pricilla, Adam and Eve, David and Bathsheba, etc… (even these couples were not without strife). My point is that ever one of us (who are married) has times where we wish we weren’t in the season with our spouse that we are. That is normal. That’s not bad. That means we have something to work on and we can fix it with help.
Friends, especially us ladies, this is what we do. We watch this awesome, sappy, head –over-heals love story (the notebook, sleepless in Seattle, you’ve got mail, letters to Juliet…) and think “I wish my husband was that romantic,” or “I wish that I would find a man like that”. This movie was written to make you think that. It’s made to make you think that there is this one person out there that will come in with his perfect hair and cavalier smile, with perfect white teeth who will completely sweep you off your feet. It doesn’t always happen that way. There is always a different story for everyone.
We don’t all have this amazing love story to tell. Some of us married our spouses because of a pregnancy before marriage. Some of us married that man that came after who was thought to be the “one”. And then some of us waited until we felt that God had put two hearts together, and then married each other (none of those marriages are perfect).
The movies are a fantasy made to draw you in and dream more, bigger. I am not saying that watching a good chick flick is wrong (trust me, I love a good romantic comedy), but I am saying that if what we take away from watching one of those beautifully written movies is a dream of a better man or marriage or story for one’s own life then we missed the mark on what God is saying. Only you can change your circumstance.
So here comes some pretty harsh truth that even I didn’t get until today (see, even though I teach, I still need to learn as well). James 4:1-8 (you may want to read this slowly to take it in deeper) says that we need to submit ourselves to God. If we call ourselves Christians then this is a simple act of obedience. Why keep on running and dreaming of things that were not created by God? We are human, yes, but we made a choice to be a human who follows hard after God, and with that choice comes more decisions to not release our hopes and dreams into the movies we watch. “But he gives us more grace. This is why Scripture says: ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’” Release your hopes and dreams into the One who we know will take care of them and when the time is right, release those back with blessings.
Now is where we, all together, make a choice to encourage each other in living life as God has designed it for each of us. Make a choice to not seek out the greener grass; that grass does not exist, but search for what God is calling you to do with the grass you are standing in now. Make a choice to make the life you have been given, designed by God, the very best life you can make it. Correct the wrong choices, and choose then to be humble.
So, I am doing this too because there are many times where I have thought, after watching said romantics, that my life was below average; that I was lacking in the romantic area; that I needed something more. I have a life that was designed perfectly for me. I have a good life. So do you. We have to make the choice to make the life we are given honoring and pleasing. It’s your choice.
Lord, I just need to be reminded that I have an awesome life that was created by You and is pleasing to You. Help my eyes and mind not to wonder from Your amazing plan for me in this world that sinks. Thank You for always loving me, even when I loose my humility to this world. In Your name.