I needed some encouragement recently in the mom field. I was just at my wits end trying to parent a teenager, a tween, a near tween and a boy still in boyhood. I was just done in one day and tired of trying to fight for what I knew was right. This is for the moms who just need a little encouragement.
To the mom who has been brought to tears by the words that your teenager has spoken to you. I know that this is the hard part of parenting your child. We thought that it was hard when they were strong willed toddlers, but this is so much harder. The pain that words can cause is so real because you have cried yourself to sleep over them without anyone ever knowing the full pain of your heart. May I just say that there will come a day when that teenager will grab hold of you and realize that you love them more than any voiced words. They will understand that being their mother was no easy task. This will not be tomorrow, but in time. Until that day comes rest in the fact that God has his hands over your teenager and keep on praying for their heart during this time of their life.
To the mom of that tween who thinks they know absolutely everything about everything. The days that the attitude doesn’t exist is far and few between and soon you won’t be able to see past the teenager that is just trying to understand their body and emotions. Love them even more during this time of questions and crazy adolescent hormonal change. Be their guide as they walk this new path of finding themselves and always be there for them even if they try to push you away. Have peace in the fact that God has a perfect design for your tween and he can and will use your child for great things in this world.
To the mom of the -wanna- be- tween, but still stuck in the nine zone. Well, if they have older siblings they learn pretty fast how to take hold of an attitude that is totally not becoming of a not so far off tween, but with your help the coming years can be much less dramatic. Start now in preparing this child for what is going to come in forms of body, emotions, and understanding. As mom you have been given the awesome role to shape and guide this child into a future of knowing and loving God and that also means teaching them what the Bible says about why they are facing today and tomorrow. Take heart! God has your child in the palm of his hand and what great plans he has in store.
To the mom with the screaming toddler who only wants that snack at that very second in that very long check-out line at none other than Wal-Mart. I know that in this moment it is really hard to see that a future without this screaming fit will actually be missed. This one moment does not define you as a mommy. What you do with this moment does and trust me there will be many more like this, but you -will –miss- it. I promise you, you will! The long nights and tired days will fade into praying all night and all day for that same screaming toddler as they become older and form even more opinions and start to make decisions for themselves. Mom, start praying now. Cherish this stage and even this one bad moment because it will be a highlight later on. And always remember that even on the most tired of your days, you were called for this by God with a great plan to raise your child in the will of God. He has got your back, momma!
To the sleep deprived and nutrient lacked mom of the precious baby. This phase is the fastest of all child rearing phases. There are days when it seems like they will never grow or sleep all night, but then one day you will look at this baby and they will be graduating high school and going off on their own. It happens that fast. Even when it is so desperately hard soak in the moments and breathe deep the aroma of this baby because tomorrow comes quick. Cherish what you have been blessed with and treasure that God has called you to this gift. Not everyone gets to be a momma to a precious little baby like you are holding in your arms. This baby is a gift from heaven only on loan. During those few times of slumber, take all relax in knowing that this baby is with you because God let it be and it would not be if he didn’t have a great plan in this journey for you and this child.
Some scriptures that comfort me when I am dealing with any stage of motherhood are:
Jeremiah 29:11-13, “For I know the plans I have for you, ‘declares the Lord,’ plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all of you heart.”
Job 12:12, “Is not wisdom found among the ages? Does not long life bring understanding?” (Talk to someone who has already been through this stage.)
Matthew 19:14, “Jesus said, ‘Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”
I still have these on index cards in various places in my home to reflect upon them. I also want to encourage you to keep a journal of your day and what happens, because you will forget and it’s amazing to be able to go back and read just what has ensued during these stages of being mom.