Not long ago my kids were still wearing diapers and toddling around the house. My greatest concern was making sure they were developing right and had all they needed to succeed as a growing, learning and thriving child. When they were little, it felt like they would never grow up. It felt like time was slow and I was tired all the time. I couldn’t get enough rest, didn’t have enough energy, and couldn’t keep up.
Truth is, time went so fast. Looking back, I now see how very precious each moment was when they were little stinkers crawling and scooting across the floor; lifting their chubby little hands toward me to pick them up and carry them or just hold them in my arms. Time was not going slow. It was, in actuality, slipping through the hourglass like sand. It was quick.
My first baby, who was so determined to stay inside my womb, came into a world of people who were immediately in love with her. They surrounded her on all sides and made sure she was safe, happy and comfortable. I didn’t know a thing about being a mother to this bright eyes, bouncing baby girl. I just knew that I loved her so much it hurt. When she become a toddler we were about to welcome another baby. She was becoming the big sister who would set the bar and teach and guide the younger one. She had no idea what was going to happen to mommy’s time or her toys, but she slid into the role with ease and immediately became the helper that I needed her to be.
Kindness came from that toddler toward her baby sister. She ooed and awed over her. When baby cried, big sister ran to her to see if she wanted her binkie or blanky. When she was in the swing, her favorite resting place, big sister would watch her to make sure she was happy. She would often try to make her smile and laugh at her. Big sis had crazy curls all over her little head and she would shake them back and forth to try to get a rouse out of the littlest blessing in the home.
These memories visit me often. I cherish them all because now that beautiful bouncing baby that become so loving is a teenager who will soon enough enter the world on her own two feet and make her own decisions regarding her life. I won’t be by her side to guide her steps and help her make the right choice. She grew up and blossomed into a young lady that is taller than her mother, slender, and has curls that frizz when not cared for properly. She loves basketball instead of dolls or dressing up. She has a huge heart for her friends and is compassionate for others. She loves to spend any time she gets with her dad and being part of any team. At times, when I look at her I still see this chubby faced little girl who could light up the whole room with her smile. Her laughter was infectious. I still see a precious little thing that had more energy than a pack of puppies.
There are so many of you who have little ones. There are so many of you whose children are now grown and completely self-sufficient. Each stage has such wonders. Each day we need to cherish. Time doesn’t stand still for anyone. It keeps ticking and turning.
I say all this to bring you to the timing that God has set for us all. I was always in such a rush to live life. I wanted to grow up fast so I could live how I wanted to live and be the person I wanted to be, but God already knew all that and wanted me to slow down. He put people and things in my path to show me how precious my life is to them and to Him. He knew who I wanted to be and yet had this amazing plan for my life that I never knew I would want.
Ladies, slow down with this precious life. Kids or no kids, career or just starting out, married for years or engaged; enjoy the moment you are in right now, today, this very minute. They all count and they all work toward a future that God has ready for you. I am still walking toward that future and unlike my earlier years where I wanted to rush and run faster, I want to slow it down, take it in, and breathe it all fresh every single second of my day. I want to bask in the presence of God in my every moment. Join with me.
Let’s read these words and hide them in our hearts with each moment we live:
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. What do workers gain from their toil? I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race. He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-13 (NIV)
Lord, help us to slow our days and remember You have set before us a time for this very moment. Help us to see You and enjoy our days right where we are. I ask that You bless the lives of the women who are reading this and just need to hear and see You in their day right now. Amen.