Before I get started I want to share a little about myself. I want to give you all a glimpse of what Mother’s Day has meant to me throughout my life. For me, Mother’s Day was just another day that I hated so very much. It ranked up there with all the other days of the year I hated such as Father’s Day, Christmas, birthdays, my sporting events, and any other special event for the simple reason that everyone else around me was celebrating with their mothers and fathers.
I think that nowadays it is unfortunately more and more common for children to grow up not having a mother or father in their lives for one reason or another; however, when I was growing up I felt like I was the only kid in the universe without parents. I still to this day at times have some of these same feelings, but I have learned to work through them without the hate and anger. My mom passed away when I was almost two and I have never known my father. My grandmother was an amazing woman who raised me, however, she could never fill that void I had from growing up without parents. I grew up being angry with God. I struggled through life without parents. Over the last few years I have come to an understanding that God has been parenting me my whole life and it was through those struggles that he was teaching me to become the man I am today.
You may be asking yourself why someone who grew up without a mother would be writing about motherhood. Well, that is a good question. Even though I grew up without a mother or father of my own, I have, over the years, been blessed with some amazing mother figures that have helped shape me into the man I am today. I am now a father of five amazing children and over the last twelve years I have had the honor and privilege of living with one of the greatest mothers I know, my wife, Melissa.
I am still no expert on the topic of motherhood nor am I a writer, but I will do my best to put pen to paper and hopefully my words make sense. I have been praying about this article for a few months now and I will allow the spirit to lead me in what he would like me to say. I pray that this article will give God all the glory, honor, and praise.
Mother’s Day is the one day of the year where people from all walks of life join in celebrating and showing appreciation to the woman that brought them into the world. On this special day in May, sons and daughters everywhere say thank you to this truly amazing lady that is caring, nurturing, protecting, loving, and supporting. Proverbs 31 talks about mothers, (Wives) of noble character and verses 29-30 lays it out beautifully, “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” To all the moms out there, I salute you.
If you ask me, all moms are superheroes with amazing powers. She may not wear the cape and leap over tall buildings, but she will destroy any monster in the closet or evildoer that tries to hurt her babies. She has this amazing ability to never be wrong, Ever. She is a human lie detector and always knows when you are trying to pull a fast one. Super mom has x-ray vision and always knows when you are hiding something. She can sense germs from a mile away and knows you’re going to be sick a week in advance. She has supper speed, because how else could you explain the fact that she can clean the entire house, do 20 loads of laundry, go to 10 stores, (Buying only one thing), do a Pinterest project for little Susie’s upcoming play, and bake 5 dozen cupcakes for little Johnny’s class party all in one afternoon and still have time for coffee with her girlfriends. Moms are without a doubt superheroes because they always have the ability to rescue you when you need rescuing, be there to put you back together when you fall, and set you straight when you went the wrong way.
We all know what amazing women mothers can be. My examples above may be a bit exaggerated, but the point is true. Some of you moms out there are saying, “NO” that all sounded pretty accurate. God designed woman for motherhood and did an amazing job if I do say so myself. Speaking from experience as Mr. Mom, I am in awe of what my wife can do on a daily basis just to do it all again the next day.
With all this superhero and greatness talk I should probably balance it out a little here. I wish it was a perfect world and could say all mothers are perfect all of the time, but we all know that this is not true. Nobody is perfect, Lord knows I am far from it.
A mother is not just a mother. They are wives, daughters, employees, bosses, friends, and so much more. Now I am just a guy, “A mans man”, and I will not even try to pretend I understand women, but from my point of view a mother is breakable. I know women are strong, resilient, and resourceful, but they are also flesh, full of emotion, and human just like everyone else. They put their heart, tears, and strength into their children and into everything they do and they don’t always get the recognition they deserve. They don’t always get a thank you or that longed for hug and kiss. They get attitude when they tell their kids to clean their rooms and then they get the same attitude when they ask their husbands to change a light bulb or take out the trash. Mothers spend their entire day doing everything for everyone with nothing in return and it wears on their spirit.
Some of you have faced depression, thoughts of suicide, and even contemplated running away. You have probably not always felt like #1 MOM. You have most likely at some point ended the day wondering have I just messed my kid up for life? Is he or she going to need counseling? Am I going to need counseling? Just know that God sees you. God loves you and He is forever grateful of you for taking care of His little children that He has entrusted in your hands. I truly believe God will have a special place in heaven for all you mothers; a mother’s heavenly coffee shop where you can all go and tell your war stories of motherhood. Don’t allow the devil to distract and discourage you from the joy and honor of being a God designed superhero-mom.
The next time you get discouraged and want to give up remember this: mothers are truly some of the greatest warriors. Whether you feel like it or not there is a mighty warrior tucked away deep down inside that primped and polished feminine exterior. It is not just the men that hold the title of strong warrior. Every day moms everywhere enter the battleground. Mothers are the front line defense for their children, their husband, and their household. One of my favorite Bible verses holds true to a mother just as much as it does to the fathers. Ephesians 6: 10-20 says, “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.”
Mothers, you have to put on your full armor of God on daily just as much as the men do and defend your family from the devil. Go into your war room and pray. I know you are good with all that makeup stuff so, put on some war paint, hold your ground, and claim your household, your children, and your lives in the name of Jesus. Take courage, this Mother’s Day, that God is with you and He has given you His spirit to help you through this journey called motherhood.
I would like to close by addressing all those non-mothers out there that may be reading this. Yes, that means all you fathers, daughters, and sons. Make mom feel special. Not just on Mother’s Day, but every day. Say thank you for all she does. Do something nice for her every now and again. Talk to her without it being a conversation where you are asking something from her. And for peat’s sake, clean your room, change the light bulb, and take out the garbage without the usual attitude that goes along with it. Treat mom on this day and everyday like the superhero-mom, warrior, and friend she works so hard to be for you.
Happy Mother’s Day!