The Comparison Game
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7) NLT
Do you ever sit and think about what expectations are demanded of you each day? Sometimes as a wife, mother, sister, daughter, employee, etc. it seems daunting. Everywhere you look there seems to be the “perfect” model of what all those things should look like. More often than not when you compare yourself to them you don’t measure up. But what I think I’m discovering is that I must be using the wrong measuring stick.
God didn’t intend for me to compare myself to anyone. He created me to be me; to compound things we tend to measure ourselves against the “perfect” one in each category of our lives. The super mom who can bake gourmet, perfect looking birthday cakes; the women who can grow, puree, and feed her family organic everything; the model who can have seventeen kids and still look like she’s never gained any weight at all; the Dr. mom who can fix any ailment without missing a beat and the list goes on and on! We roll all these “perfects” into one superhuman mom and think she’s the one we should strive to be. The truth is most of the expectations we feel the weight of everyday, we place on ourselves by comparing ourselves to others.
The verse above tells us not to worry about anything. ANYTHING. Don’t worry about being who you aren’t. Tell God what you need and thank him for what he has already given you. While you may not possess every talent given to the one you are measuring yourself by, God has gifted you to be just who he needs you to be. When we choose to rest in who we are in Christ, thanking him for what he has given us, and not worrying about what we don’t possess and comparing ourselves to the “perfects” of the world, that’s when we can experience true peace. Peace that passes all understanding. It also tells us that His peace will guard our hearts and minds. I think that just might mean if we choose His peace he will guard us against the comparison game and just might help eliminate some of the expectations we put on ourselves. I think we could all use less of those!
Father, help us to rest in who we are in you. Help us embrace who You’ve made us to be. Thank You for putting into each of our lives exactly what You knew we would need. Amen