1. Pray. (1 Thessalonians 5:17)
Before you embark on an amazing journey that you will share with another woman, you need to pray. Make sure that this relationship you are going to start is blessed by God. Pray that your words will be used to glorify God in this unity.
You should always consult God before you start a mentorship to make sure that it’s a good fit for the both of you and the timing is right. Don’t rush in because you feel like it’s the Christian thing to do. Proceed slowly and with God at the center.
2. Start Small. (Psalm 32: 8-11)
If you are seasoned at mentoring or new to this process, start with just one or two. This friendship is an investment. Those wanting to be mentored by you are going to require your time and we all know how precious time is. You build trust when the gathering is small.
Mentoring is a very intimate process. No longer are the days of meeting at the church for the older women to feed into the lives of the younger generations. Meeting at homes, in a coffee shop, or a small café is where the comfort zone is now, and where you begin. Make it easy on the both of you.
3. Be Open to Relationships. (1 Samuel 20:42)
If you are not wanting to form a bond and deep friendship with another woman, you should not be mentoring. This process is all about building lasting friendships; friendships where you can depend on each other no matter the situation.
This is the most important part of mentoring. Always making yourself open to forming new friendships that grow into deep relationships keeps the mentoring open with trust and communication. God is the key – keep Him at the center.
4. Be Honest. (Proverbs 24:26)
No one wants a friend who doesn’t tell them the truth. It is rare to find even one friend who you can talk to about anything and not feel that we are judged.
The truth is we NEED a friend who will be honest even when the truth hurts. Honesty is always the best policy. It builds trust and friendship.
5. Live What You Speak. (Proverbs 8:6)
You can tie this in with being honest. If you are going to speak the words of God to help mentor, you better be willing to live it yourself. You’d be surprised how very transparent people really are.
I’m a people watcher along with so many other women out there. We watch people live. We listen to how people talk and what they say. If what they say doesn’t line up with how they are living, red flags go up for me and I immediately question integrity, honesty, and relationship.
Bottom line: Practice What You Preach!
6. Be an Example You Would Look Up to. (Ecclesiastes 9:13)
We are right back to being transparent. Think about who you looked up to while you were growing up. Why did you look up to them? What was it that made that person shine through above everyone else?
As a mentor, you need to be the example that other women will look up to. No, this doesn’t mean that you need to be perfect. This means owning your life choices and making sure you are willing to step up all while they watch you live. Life is real and raw. Sometimes we just gotta say,
“Hey, I screwed up, but you know what I learned through it?” This journey isn’t just about you.
7. Don’t Make It Harder Than It Needs to Be. (Proverbs 15:13)
Have you heard of the K.I.S.S. principle? Keep It Simple Stupid. Seriously, this should never be complicated. If it is, you need to rethink your role. If it doesn’t work to meet on the agreed weekday, change it. If there are difficult questions you can’t answer, find someone who can. Make an effort, but make it fun.
Be comfortable and honest. Build friendships that turn into relationships. Be the kind of woman that you would look up to, and have fun. God designed us to be relational and do life together. Go and do that!
Lord, I ask that the women reading this will seek your will in their life and who you would have them mentor. Give us each a divine appointment to someone who needs a friend and needs you. Be with us as we walk the line of mentoring and give us all the words we will ever need to share. Amen.