Disordered Love


There are three life events that I, not unlike most people, would consider the greatest events of my life.

  1. The day that I gave my heart to Christ.

  2. The day that I married John.

  3. The days that I became a mom.

I remember walking down the aisle to meet John at the altar. The church was dimly lit, I was wearing a white gown with a veil and as the wedding march played, the only person in the full church I could see was my husband-to-be waiting for me. We said our vows and promised to love each other until death parts us.

I met Deven for the first time when he was two days old. A small, olive skin little baby boy. Ben was seven months old and was a chubby faced little cherub that had the best toothy grin. Jabez, at his birth, was a chunk with the cutest dimple in his chin. And Lydia was a mild mannered little girl who loved to snuggle.

I love my husband and I really love my kiddos. I strive to be a loving wife and to be the best mom I can be. As we nurture our marriage and raise our kids, we want to put them first, but as we put each of them first, there’s someone we’re not putting first.

Our first love, Jesus.

St. Augustine calls this “disordered love”.

God calls this idolatry. Deuteronomy 5:9 says, “You shall have no other gods before me.”

Anything that we put before our relationship with Jesus is an idol to us. We need to keep our loves in order. Jesus first; always. Then our spouse. Then our children.

When we live a life that has Jesus and our relationship with him first, our other relationships will be blessed. However, if we get our loves out of order, putting our kids before Jesus or even before our spouses, or putting our spouses before the Lord–we get disordered. Disorder in our spiritual walk brings unrest in all our other relationships.

If you’re feeling as if your life lacks peace or joy, I challenge you to look at the order of your priorities. Reorder the things in your life that you consider important. As you begin to put things and people in their proper place, I am confident that you will begin to experience increased joy and peace.

Tiffany Heth

Published by Titus II Woman

Helping women find purpose, develop a deeper relationship with God, and help each other through God's Word.

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