Confession: I sometimes feel like a major failure at parenting.
Do you struggle with that?
Being a parent can be so rewarding, but hard! I want to do the best I can. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to get phone calls or text messages from other parents with complaints, let alone making them myself. I don’t want to hear my child tell me that another person said something hurtful to them, but it is a part of life; building our character.
My daughter, she loves to sing (loudly). She is into volleyball and basketball, and can be also a stuffer; keeping things to herself. So, I did not learn from her that she had encountered some relationship issues. Can you remember your teen years, little quarrels with your friends? Remembering back on one instance with me and a neighbor girl, the mom of the girl ended up with a broken arm. Eeks! (Wasn’t me) With our oldest daughter, we learned, there is always two sides to every story. I am a mom that tries to keep an open mind that my daughter is human and it is very much a possibility she could be having issues. Though I want to defend her, I listen.
Like I said, parenting can be hard, so I had to figure out how to help my daughter. My heart was open to listening to a wise Christian woman as she helped with the first encounter, which ended up being helpful in the next one. I am sure there will be more, since we are only in the tweens.
I was reading a while back and this stood out to me: “Children are like arrows in a hand of a warrior.” Psalm 127:4
Digging deeper, I learned that arrows are a slender, straight, generally pointed missile or weapon made to be shot from a bow and equipped with feathers at the end of the shaft near the nock, for flight control. Arrow points are available in numerous styles, shapes, and weight. Each is designed for a unique purpose. Our children are different styles, shapes, and weight and they will each have encounters with different people.
I also learned that a warrior is a person engaged or experienced in warfare; soldier, showing courage.
Did I lose you? Hold on.
Some may relate to this if you know anything about bow hunting. When you go out you need to make sure that you have a bow that is equipped for you to handle (fits your body and strength), the proper arrows to shoot, and a place to go. Don’t forget your camo, gotta look good! Make sure you know what you are aiming for so you have the proper tips. But wait, did you practice? A true hunter practices shooting at a target, maybe underwent intense training, like a warrior preparing for a victorious battle. It is our job to be warriors (undergo the experience/training, prepare for battle) so we know how to properly aim our arrows/children so they penetrate for a victory.
“Parents are to train up a child in the way they should go, when they are old, they will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
Do you feel like you fail at parenting?
Do you feel like it’s always your child doing something wrong?
Do you know what to aim your children towards, so they won’t depart?
I am glad my daughter is experiencing some difficult situations now so she has us to help teach her the proper way to handle each situation. (Not saying each have been successful.)
So this is what has helped me to help her in this relationship issue: “A friend LOVES at ALL times.” Jesus replied: “LOVE the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: LOVE your neighbor as yourself.” Matthew 22:37-39
Warrior, aim your arrow at the bullseye, the heart where love comes from and you won’t fail.
Lord Jesus, I ask that You give us each confidence in raising our children to point toward You in every situation they may face. If we encounter another child who is needing guidance, may we each be equipped with words of wisdom and compassion to help the child and the parent of that child. Bless our paths today and help us to walk in Your way and light. Amen.