Finding A Certain Fulfillment

Can I be transparent for a moment? 

I never thought I would want to be a stay at home mom. I’m just good at going to work. I’m not good at being a homemaker. Perhaps it was my upbringing or my God designed make-up. As John and I looked at what parenting would “be” like, I always thought it would include daycare. I went through college and graduated with full intentions of putting my degree to work. 
When our adopted sons were small, I continued to work full time and they went to an amazing daycare center. It worked for us. When we moved to Iowa, I stayed home for a few months, but continued to actively job search. When I went to work, my kids went to school. 

After Jabez was born, I was working full time and, being a pastor, John flexed his office hours so he could stay home with the baby during the day and I could go to work, but that didn’t last long. I longed for more time with my new baby boy and John longed for me to come home. We made some major sacrifices and I came home to do a work-at-home-job and be a stay-at-home-mommy. I hated this new “job”. Not mommyhood, but the transcription job I was trying to juggle.

It was just awful, for so many reasons. So I tried something else. Mult-level marketing. Makeup. Then a hobby window decor business.

In the midst of all this, I began to resent my degree. I didn’t need a BA to be a stay-at-home-mom. I resented the daycare industry because it is so expensive. I resented that we were too far from family to get a lot of help like those Granny Nanny’s some friends have. I felt unfulfilled. 

Now don’t get me wrong. My unfulfillment did not reflect how I feel about being a mom, because that is nothing short of miraculous. By now, we’ve added a fourth child to the mix and life is interesting  and busy. I love being a mom. I love that I am raising my children. I love that they see my face when they wake up and go to sleep. I love that I am teaching them their letters and helping them with their homework. And while I wish I still had Moreland Daycare to help with the potty training, I’m so glad it’s me that gets to celebrate (and clean up) those milestones. But I don’t need this very expensive, private school Bachelor’s Degree to do any of this. I just don’t.

I’m still not great at being a stay-at-home-mom. I struggle with spending a well balanced amount of time cleaning and snuggling, cooking and reading. It’s so hard. And then there’s the financial sacrifices and burdens. I know that John shoulders so much of that burden, oftentimes in silence.

Until one day in April, I was scrolling through facebook as the kids ate peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and apple slices (apples=fruit=not a total failure). I saw a friend’s post about working at home and loving it. I started researching and it was like the heavens opened wide, I could hear the Hallelujah chorus, the Light of God Almighty shone down and I knew.

I knew this is what I had been searching for. Praying for. Needing. Wanting. 

What is this, you ask?

Before I divulge all my secrets I will say that this met numerous requirements of what I needed:

1) I can work strictly from home.
2) The hours can be flexible and work with my kiddos’ and husband’s schedules. 
3) It costs nothing to start-up (I’m looking at you MLM).
4) I don’t have to sell a thing. Nothing. Nada.
5) My income is not based on getting anyone else to sign up, either.
6). I could use my hard earned, and very expensive, Bachelor’s Degree, and years of experience. 
I’m talking about VIPKIDS.
It’s a three year old company that pairs Chinese students with English teachers for one-on-one English as a Second Language classes. It is a $100M+ organization (and growing!) that bridges the gap between two different sides of the world for the funnest, sweetest, most challenging, and rewarding job I have ever had! 
Seems too good to be true, huh!? I know. I pinch myself every day. But I’m telling ya-it’s real. I am compensated fairly for my work. And I’m fulfilled.
Please don’t mistake this type of fulfillment. I am spiritually fulfilled  by Christ alone! “But whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst again. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4:14

I am personally fulfilled by a caring husband, miraculous children, a wonderful family, and a circle of friends that get me, but this gives me a mental, educational, purposeful fulfillment that I am wired to crave.

And if you’re like me: looking for something new to do for extra income while raising your babies, then please, follow this link! (Don’t worry, even if you don’t–I will still be getting paid for the work I do teaching those Chinese kiddos English!)

Feel free to message me on Facebook if you have any question. 
Tiffany Heth
Tiffany is the mother to four amazing children, all God’s miracle to their family, and she cherishes every moment given her to be with them. John, Tiffany’s husband, and their family make their home in Iowa, where they minister to a congregation of fellow believers. Tiffany is not only a breast-feeding, cloth-diapering mother and a pastor’s wife, but she takes great joy in nourishing her family with the wild game that they have been fortunate enough to harvest. “How great is the Father’s love for us that we shall be called children of God, for that is what we are!” 1 John 3:1

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One thought on “Finding A Certain Fulfillment

  1. As the Grammy to these four kiddos, and Tiff’s Mom-in-law, I can wholeheartedly validate the change that VIPkids has made to her life. It is so much more than a bump-up to the family income.
    Plus, when she is in my home (2 hours north) she brings her “school” with her. She’s fun to watch (yah, I peek) as she is plying her trade. She is being intellectually challenged and stimulated while her kids are asleep (and John, too). As a future-thinker, I see this value-added endeavor sparking ideas in Tiffany that have laid dormant for a little while.
    I must add, though, that her window upcycling business is really cool and on-trend.


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