How to Be a Mom

I was scrolling through Pinterest looking at ideas for a project when I saw a title that stopped my finger from scrolling further down. It said How to be a Good Mom. I thought, “huh, that’s interesting. I had no idea there was a special formula for this. Wish someone would have told me sixteen years ago before I had my first child.”

Here’s the truth: there is no formula for being a good mom. There is no twelve step program to follow. There is no one person on this earth who has the perfect answer to every question on raising children. We do, however, have a great manual to follow.

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Our children have minds of their own and though we try our best to be a good mom and raise them well, they will make their own decision of what path to follow. So, what do we do with the title of “mom”?

Keep in mind here that I am no more wiser than the next person on holding this title. I can only speak from my experience and what I have learned in my short time wielding the mom name. I am sure there are some who have more wisdom in this area and I welcome them to share.

Mom. A word often taken for granted. Not everyone has a mom. Some have a mom, but really don’t know her. Others have a woman who has stepped in as mom. So, what does mom mean? I looked up the word mom in the Merriam-Webster online dictionary and do you know that I found no actual definition other than the word “mother”.  This intrigued me. If you were to ask my husband what the meaning of mom is he would have an answer different than most. He says that “mom” is  a very special title and he won’t just give it anyone. You see, he was born to a woman who wasn’t what he thought a mom was. He sees a mom as a woman who is there for you no matter what. A woman who goes beyond the expectation of birthing a child and putting all her needs or desires aside for the sake of her child. The title mom is given to the woman who responds to the hurt, pain, joy, happiness, fun, every day life that occurs to her children.

For some, this woman given the title mom is the very woman who birthed them into this world though hard labor and pain. For others, this woman is one who came through marriage as a stepparent or even through the marriage to a spouse.

I have four children that I birthed into this world through long, hard and painful labor. I was raised by a wonderful woman who birthed me into this world. I hold to a scripture while I am still raising my children, Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it” found in Proverbs 22:6. My mom would often teach on this in youth as I growing up, but I didn’t fully understand it until I become a mother and my children began to make decisions on their own that affect their future.  

There are so many scriptures on parenting, but this is the top of the list for me. If I make a conscious decision to raise  my children to know God and His love and take them to a church that believes God is love, then I am already ahead of the game. I am already starting them on the path in which they will be able to make good choices and turn to the One who has their lives in his hands.


I am not a perfect mom. I don’t do things the right way – a lot. I say things I regret and often I am wrong, but I know that if I keep on leading my children to Christ, I am doing something right in raising my children. You won’t get a manual written by me on being a good mom, but I can give you the name of someone who has it all figured out.

Lord, my hope is that through Your leading I will be able to raise the children You entrusted to me to follow hard after You. I ask that You keep Your hand over me as I do my best to be a mom to my children. Guide me in my words and actions toward them and help me to be the best mom I can be to each of their little hearts. Amen.

Tara DeMaris

Tara is the founder and president of Titus II Woman Ministries as well as a contributing writer and speaker. She is the wife to David, seventeen years, and the mother to their four children. Together, they make their home in South Dakota. She is a graduate of Crown College and most passionate about reaching the hearts of women globally through mentorship, friendship and God’s Word. “Make history with God and He will make history through you.”

One Comment on “How to Be a Mom

  1. Good article. We all just do our best and pray it is enough to lead our children to be Christ following adults that are healthy and wise.

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